Sexuality in Addiction Recovery – Dawn Farm Education Series
June 30, 2020 @ 7:30 pm - 9:00 pm
Location: St. Joseph Mercy Michigan Heart and Vascular Institute auditorium, 5325 Elliott Drive, Ypsilanti Michigan 48197. Park in parking area “M”.
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Exploring sexuality in addiction recovery can be a challenging pursuit. When discussing sex, the Big Book, Alcoholics Anonymous, notes: “Here we find human opinions running to extremes-absurd extremes, perhaps. One set of voices cry that sex is a lust of our lower nature, a base necessity of procreation. Then we have the voices who cry for sex and more sex; who bewail the institution of marriage; who think that most of the troubles of the race are traceable to sex causes. They think we do not have enough of it or that it isn’t the right kind. They see its significance everywhere. One school would allow man no flavor for his fare and the other would have us all on a straight pepper diet.” One of the identified goals of recovery is to “. . . shape a sane and sound ideal for our future sex life.” (Pp. 68-69) A further challenge is to “. . .avoid hysterical thinking or advice.” (P. 70)
Later in the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, the author identifies a common problem that persons in early recovery often encounter when pursuing significant and intimate relationships. “The primary fact that we fail to recognize is our total inability to form a true partnership with another human being. Our egomania digs two disastrous pitfalls. Either we insist upon dominating the people we know, or we depend upon them far too much.” (P. 53)
We are also reminded that sexual problems are not a foreign notion to people early in recovery. “A body badly burned by alcohol does not often recover overnight nor do twisted thinking and depression vanish in a twinkling. . . Alcohol is so sexually stimulating to some men that they have over-indulged. Couples are occasionally dismayed to find that when drinking is stopped the man tends to be impotent.”(P. 133 & 134)
This presentation will explore the physical effects of long-term alcohol and drug use on sexuality, changes in sexuality that emerge in early recovery, and some thoughts about the processes that promote a return to health. Also, using recovery literature as the starting point, this will be an opportunity to explore a wide variety of thoughts about the pursuit of intimate relationships in recovery.
Handouts will be posted around the presentation date.
About the presenter:
Jerry Fouchey, BS, MA, Sp.A., CADC;
Dawn Farm Lifestyle Medicine Therapist and Didactic Group Facilitator.
Jerry Fouchey has extensive experience in the field of education as an administrator, facilitator, strategist, teacher and practitioner in the areas of educational administration, curriculum, instruction and staff development, and has played leadership roles in many initiatives in various public school districts. After serving several years as a Dawn Farm Spera Recovery Center Counselor and later as an Outpatient Therapist, Jerry Fouchey currently serves as a Lifestyle Medicine Therapist and didactic group facilitator for Dawn Farm. He earned his BS, MA, and Sp.A. from Eastern Michigan University, has received additional training in substance use disorder prevention and treatment procedures, and is a Certified Alcohol & Drug Counselor (CADC). Jerry was instrumental in the development and implementation of Dawn Farm’s Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and Lifestyle Medicine programs.